Maybe, Baby

Possibilities, possibilities...let go of all of them.

They are everywhere. Every person you meet is your potential new friend or lover. Every thing you see might be your potential new possession. Every place you hear of is your potential new destination. All those people could be your potential new friends and lovers. All those things you see could be your potential new possessions. All those places could be your potential new destinations. But really? It´s like there is too many trees to actually see the forest, right?

It´s an amazing gift for our generation (at least for us blessed kids living in 1^st world countries) to have almost all the opportunities out there in our hands. We can become anything we want, is it a lawyer, is it a carpenter, is it an artist? We can go everywhere we want to go to (time and money always can be managed if you really want to and are willing to work hard) …. In fact, so many doors are potentially possible to be opened, but with that gift and freedom comes a burden also- How to chose? How not to get lost in all those possibilities?

I know this sounds like a spoiled brat „oh my gaaawd I could have anything I want because money just totally is not a problem and I could go anywhere because, oh boy, who needs to go to university or have a job“ – Just to be clear: That´s totally not what I mean and it´s definatley not realistic nor true, but you guys are smart and know what I´m trying to say here, right?

Our grandparents had to fight for everything they wanted to become and/or have. Some of them even could not chose their significant other (I know many can´t today either but I´m talking 1^st world luxury problems here). 2-3 generations back, going to foreign countries or deciding on their dream job was a far away dream maybe, the problems they had were much more within reach and in front of them caused mainly by political circumstances. Us in contrast, we have to find our way through the jungle of possibilities and alleged options. Everything happens so quickly, doesn´t last long and is replaceable.

Isn´t it just easier to buy a new lamp instead of fixing it yourself? Isn´t it just easier to break up with your boy/girlfriend instead of working on the relationship and try harder to make it last? Isn´t it just easier to leave and go somewhere else?

I´m not saying I do any of those things and I´m not saying, I don´t. I`m just letting my mind flow and talk about something that definately is reality for many of us. Us, The 80ies and 90ies kids. The maybe-generation. (oh lord, the maybes are a totally different subject I´m not even getting started on it. Just eliminate ALL maybes. They are pure poison and leave you with nothing. Say yes and say no. that´s it!) Keep on dreaming though. Actually, keep all the maybes! Oh well. Maybe the maybes should be kept anyway, maybe. ha.

So I´m suggesting: Let go of all those possibilities and see whats actually in front of you and inside you. Anything in there? Hello?

When I was traveling for example, I got into this mode at some point close to the end of my journey, where I thought I wasn´t fulfilled and was looking for more. More stimulation, just more of anything, just something different... searching and searching, all those opportunities... Where to go and who to go with... I just wanted to leave this place and go somewhere else. Silly me. Because looking for something else on the outside must be changing everything inside, right? ;)

It drove me insane and at the end of the day I got humbled by the ocean and figured: Sometimes, actually most of the time, it´s better to not take all this too seriously because then you´re focusing on everything you COULD be and COULD have, instead of being aware of the reality and being right in this moment right in this place right in this state of mind. Truly present. Being present is a present. Words are funny.

That doens´t mean that we should not change something if it doens´t make us happy. Fucking break up with her/him if it´s not right, fucking leave if this place doesn´t give you what you need, fucking change your habits and point of views if you don´t like who you are. But don´t get carried away with all those potential options. Its like stock market. Its potentially there, but it actually is not real, its temptation, distracting you from right this moment you could actually enjoy and make the most of.

Pardon my french btw. Long story short: If it seems like there is too much of everything, limit it down and you will have more to yourself and to share!

A quote from one of my favorite films ever, “Mr. Nobody” (Jaret Leto please marry me and make me a dozen of babies):

“We cannot go back. That´s why it´s so hard to choose. As long as we don´t choose, everything remains possible.” Dear Mr. Nobody, you are damn right. But really, are you right though?

Amen. Shalom. Chill on lovers.